Take a break

Work in intervals. Don't work like a freak. Stay extremely focused while you are working. Cut off from everything while you are working, fall in love with your work. While working do things that are productive, activities that you will gain from, activities that will help you grow. Strive to achieve, work hard for it as achievements will definitely give you happiness but remember don't tie the knot of your happiness to your achievements, be happy while you are working, this attitude will help you achieve your goal even faster..
What I am trying to point is that don't end up working 24 hours a day. Don't become a work addict. work in intervals like for 2-3 hours then give yourself 20-25 minutes break and during the break have a gala. Listen to music, talk to your loved ones, connect with people you should connect with or best is stretch yourself  or sit in silence as it will not get you distracted and will keep you focused.

Love your fruits and vegetables

It's hard to believe the benefits of a diet rich in vegetables and fruits: low blood pressure reduced risk of heart disease, stroke, and some cancers; lower risk of eye problem and a healthy digestive system; and a mellowing effect on blood sugar that can help keep appetite in check. These are internally. Externally it keeps your skin glowing, keeps your hair healthy, makes you energetic, improves the functioning of your brain.  Eat plenty of fruits and vegetables everyday and soon you will realize that the benefits I have mentioned are actually less, they are much more.


If you don't like fruits and vegetables and never eat them then start off small. Include a cup of salad with your every meal or go on a mission that for one week no matter what -for lunch you will only have raw vegetables and fruits. Remember they should not be cooked, because the moment you cook them you kill them. Try it for a week just force yourself and you will see the drastic change, you will notice your digestive system improving within a couple of days and folks its very important to have a good digestive system to have an amazing day. And if you can have an amazing day you will definitely be happy.

Dependency on stress

One day one of my friend was telling me that he performs his best when he is stressed, when there is pressure to finish the job, when the deadline has arrived. The belief system has become such that stress is necessary to perform at your peak, that stress in necessary to deliver your best. Stress has become a drive to achieve goals, it is replacing passion and love for the work. Is this the right way of working??

Consider this scenario suppose with age I get pain in my knee and I don't take care of it thinking it to be natural with age. I will still be walking but this time with a lot off pain. Suppose I live my days without taking adequate care of it, just trying to ignore it and then one day suddenly a situation arrives where I need to run, Then will I be able to run?? Absolutely NO.

Same is with stress. Look at a child he/she is never stressed. Just try to recall how you felt the last time you were stressed, which probably would not be very long back. If you cannot check it on emotional level just check it on physical level. Your heart beat must have increased, your pulse rate must have increased, at times your mouth becomes dry or your legs and hands start to tremble.You get a very uncomfortable feeling in the stomach. Your head gets heavy.

Now examine yourself did you perform better when you were stressed? NO, I can guarantee you would have performed better if you were calm and happy. Consider as a child when we went to give exams, due to anxiety we would make mistakes at places where we knew the answer and later after finishing the exams we would find those mistakes ourselves and call them careless or silly mistakes. Now, were those mistakes silly or we were silly to get anxious and nervous?

Load or pressure or targets are fine because if there would be no target we would take six days to do what we could do in 24 hours. It's a wrong belief that pressure creates stress. Absolutely no, pressure is just a situation.

   STRESS =                 PRESSURE (SITUATION)
                               RESILIENCE(INNER STRENGTH)

We have no control over situation(pressure) but we definitely have control over as to how we react to the situation(pressure) which is called inner strength. Our negative thoughts under pressure creates stress. Like suppose I need to complete certain work in the office by tomorrow that's a pressure a situation, anyhow I have to do the work. But here I can make a choice regarding my thoughts. Will my thoughts be negative or positive. If I start to think what if i am not able to finish the job, what if someone else finishes the job before me and takes away my promotion, if I do not finish I might get fired and on and on. These negative thoughts create the stress and not the pressure and then later after completing the work we say oh man this work was so stressful, wish I never have to face it again. Common is it right to blame the situation?

During pressure just take a little time to watch your thoughts and change them to positive ones, thoughts that will give you joy, thoughts that will make you love the situation. Negative thoughts create stress and not the situation.

Stress and worry is abnormal

Getting stressed out has become so common now days that we consider getting stressed out is normal. But it is not normal it is very abnormal, I know this fact can be a little hard to digest but it is true. People say that I have lost my job, I am not getting any new job how can I help but not worry.

Just for a moment put the scenario in this way that your friend is not getting a job while you are doing well then what would your advice be to him...

You would definitely say that worrying and getting stressed out is not going to help, you will soon find a good job just relax. I know it is easy said then done but this is the only solution.For a moment analyze what you need to get a job you must be confident, cool headed and you got to believe in yourself. Now if you worry and if you are stressed then do you retain these quality. Absolutely NO you loose them then how are you going to get the job.

Here you have to make a choice that I will be happy only if I get a job or achieve something or I will be happy and achieve. If you choose the former than you are going to worry and get stressed every time a obstacle comes in the way and quiet possible you might break down while if you choose the later you will be able to handle all the obstacle calmly and confidently and will definitely achieve your goal.

I recommend everyone practice yoga and meditation to control your mind and keep your body fit. Yoga and meditation has many benefits I have explained them in my older posts. To learn and practice yoga you can refer to the following books.



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It is only your response that matters

Many of you think that "I will be happy after I buy a new house or buy a new car or buy a diamond ring or get promotion etc. etc.". Fine given for a moment that you will be happy after you buy a new house. But in reality are you really happy even after you buy the new house, no then you think that I will be happy after I buy a new car or I will be happy after I get the interior designed even after this you are not happy, you keep postponing your happiness on something else.

Suppose you buy a beautiful jewellery set and you are very happy, then someone comes and says that this jewellery design is not good or it is fake, then what happens, you become unhappy again, you become terribly sad. Consider another scenario you buy a beautiful jewellery set and are very happy and another person looks at the set and thinks how sad I cannot afford this set and becomes unhappy and another person does not like the design and is looking for another design to become happy.

My friends what I am trying to convey here is that if the physical object or situation had contained happiness it would have given happiness to everyone but above we see that for same jewellery set the responses of different people is different  and it is their response that makes them happy or unhappy.

Consider this scenario after a failure one person goes in depression another suicides while another says okay I will start over again and goes way ahead. 

Remember one thing that the way you respond towards the object or situation determines whether you will be happy or unhappy and the way you respond is completely under your control because if the object or a situation had the power to generate your response then it would generate the same response for everyone. It is the way you choose to react that will make you happy or unhappy.

3 must do activities during the day

1. Exercise: Like food is required to survive same way pumping your heart is as important as eating. It is a fuel for your body. It is even more important than eating.It pumps oxygen into your lungs which oxygenates the blood in your body and as a result your entire body is rejuvenated. It is very sad that it is ignored by many of us. If you are a food lover I am not asking you to restrict your diet all you need to do is to workout rigorously for around 45 minutes daily, so that you can enjoy your food even more. I recommend doing yoga as it aligns mind and body and energizes the body by being aware of the breathe.

2. Love yourself: If you can do this trust me miracles will work in your life, here I don't mean being arrogant but a healthy respect and love for yourself. Trust me you are a genius, there's no one on earth like you, you are unique so why want to be like someone else. Be inspired by others but aspire to be yourself. Stop comparing yourself with others you have your own talents.

3. Focus on the abundance: focus on the abundance and not on lack as what you focus on is what you get more in life. Start to focus on all the things you have, just take a piece of paper and a pen and write down all the things you have from running water to electricity, from the house you have to the vehicle you drive, your family, your friends, your work which pays you, the good roads you get to travel on, the food you eat etc.
It will shift your energy from lack to abundance, it will create positive energy around you and you will see  within 3-4 minutes of this practice that you start to feel wonderful within. 

Dr. Robert Puff

Dr. Robert Puff a happiness expert, author and speaker shares the importance of living in the present and how vital tool it is to keep us happy throughout our lives. I am providing the link to the podcast below do check it out guys. Its amazing.
http://www.happinesspodcast.org/happiness/202/